Polyamory WeeklyAuthor: Minx
14 Apr 2021

Polyamory Weekly

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Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory, the lifestyle of being involved in more than one commited, long-term, loving relationship with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

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    595 What if I don't want to hear my partner having s-x?

    A listener wants to know if it's OK to consider nesting with a partner if she's not sure she'll be comfortable hearing them have sex with someone else.

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • Thanks to L for taking the dog so we could record! And forgive Baloo saying hello a few times in the episode. J
    • D asked for our poly pet peeves, so here they are:
      • Sex negativity in the poly community. Nothing wrong if it IS all about the sex!
      • Folks who describe polyamory as “more evolved.”
      • Poly gatekeepers.

    8:30 Poly in the news

    Three best poly 101 articles: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/the-3-best-poly-101-articles-to-share.html

    10:00  Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

    We all need to listen to BIPOC voices with respect to U.S. history. Watch the Netflix series Amend: The Fight for America, executive produced and hosted by Will Smith.

    14:30 Feedback

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    15:00 Topic: is it OK to not want to hear my partner having sex with someone else?

    E and her partner of two years are moving in together but concerned about hearing metamour sex and having private space. She asks if being completely okay with hearing one’s partner getting down with a meta a pre-requisite for being good nesting partners? What are your thoughts on ways to progress to this point of compersion/okay-ness?

    • Don’t borrow trouble. You don’t know how you’ll react, and your actual reaction will probably be different, anyway.
    • If it turns out that you don’t, own your shit. It’s your issue to address, not your partner’s.
    • What would monogamists do? When monogamists are concerned about living together, they do test runs--a weekend away, a week or two vacation—to experiment with domesticity.
    • It’s a two-way door decision: if you don’t like it, you can go back to living apart.

    26:50 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    27:15 Feedback

    Mica encourages us and you to continue the hard work of being allies to BIPOC.

    30:00 Happy poly moment

    Gigi writes in with a happy poly moment about community. Even though her local meetup hadn’t met since February, she wanted to build community by giving back and adopted a family for the holidays. The group jumped at the chance, got every item on the family’s list, including four bikes, and more! A great demonstration of building community by giving back.

     32:15 Thank you!

    Welcome Ivo to the PW Playmates!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 31 Mar 2021

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    594 How to talk to kids about polyamory and stuff

    Ashley Robertson, child care provider and sex-positive educator, makes her podcast debut to answer questions about age-appropriate sex education.

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • Same ole’ same ole’ pandemic, just waiting for the vaccine

    2:25 Poly in the news

    5:55 Feedback

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    6:40 Interview: Ashley Robertson on talking to kids about polyamory and sex

    Ashley identifies as a feminine, bi-curious, ethically solo-polyamourous, sexual submissive. With over a decade of experience in the BDSM community, she isn't shy of perverse topics. She is a liberated, ethical slut who wishes to share with others the freedom of sexuality without shame.

    Ashley is an expert question-asker. With three teaching degrees, she's an educator who is fed up with the idea that learning comes from a teacher. Instead, she crafts workshops and activities that invite introspection and curiosity while accommodating for all learners. She's at her happiest when working with youth; demonstrating consent, guiding them towards comfort surrounding condoms, and providing honest answers to questions about sexuality. She's trained to facilitate the Our Whole Lives curriculum and adapts the workshops to fit diverse audiences.  Her workshops have reached local audiences for parent education events and audiences far and wide via virtual workshops hosted by educational, outreach organizations. Ashley's non-coercive, comprehensive approach to sex ed is what we all wished we had growing up. You can find her group on Facebook, Let's Talk About Sex Ed with Ms. Ashley.

    28:10 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    28:44 Happy Poly Moment

    Fun story about the wife offering protection and safety tips to the metamour!

    30:20 Thank you!

    Welcome Ivo to the PW Playmates!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 19 Mar 2021

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    593 How do you handle going platonic?

    Matt writes in to ask what to do after a partner asks to be platonic while she figures things out. Lusty Guy and Minx give advice.

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • Let’s talk about snow and the polar vortex. Seattle snow was fun for us and our puppy, but Minx was worried about her family in Texas.

    4:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

    • We all learned about the pilgrims founding America to enjoy religious tolerance, but it’s not true. They decamped England and went to Amsterdam and then Leiden, where they faced no religious persecution. They stayed there for 10 years and ran for office in order to try to impose their religious views on everyone else. They weren’t fleeing religious persecution; they wanted to establish it. Smithsonian Magazine reference, the pilgrims’ time in Holland
    • A primary reason the US government forbade membership in a specific church to run for office was because no one could agree on which church that should be. Want to find out more? Watch Stephen Fry in America or read the book.

    9:45 Feedback

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    10:15 How do you handle a relationship going platonic?

    Matt had a preexisting relationship with A.J., and Emma fell into that relationship. Emma realizes she needs to spend time on herself and wants to shift the relationship to a platonic friendship.

    • Minx suggests seeing this as unrequited love and treating the shift in the nature of the relationship as a breakup.
    • Lusty Guy also suggests taking time apart to do that healing from the breakup. He’s also concerned that Matt might have a white knight or “nice guy” syndrome and be wishing for a transactional nature to the relationship.
    • Consider that waiting for her sounds a lot like wanting to change her, so do take the time to heal and put yourself first instead.

    21:40 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    22:15 Feedback

    This week’s feedback is an appreciation of Lusty Guy’s politics corner.

    23:15 Happy Poly Moment

    R wrote in to share that she uses Poly Weekly to redirect her anxiety. She expected to be anxious when her partner asked to bring a date over to their place for the first time, and she was pleased when she discovered it didn’t kick off her anxiety. She believes she can be healthy and poly!

    25:15 Shout out

    Shout out to Jenn and Catherine with love from Tammy on their three-year anniversary!

    Thank you!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 01 Mar 2021

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    592 How do you like to bond?

    Dr. Eli Sheff joins today to share her new project, The Bonding Project, in which she seeks to help people understand how they bond.

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    3:45 Poly in the news

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    6:15 Interview with Dr. Eli Sheff

    Dr. Elisabeth “Eli” Sheff is a researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, and educational consultant. With a PhD in Sociology (University of Colorado, Boulder, 2005) and certification as a Sexuality Educator from the AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, 2012), Dr. Sheff specializes in gender and sexual minority families, consensual non-monogamy, and kink/BDSM. Sheff is the foremost academic expert on polyamorous families with children, and her 20+ year Polyamorous Family Study is the only longitudinal study of poly families with children to date.

    Find her at https://elisabethsheff.com/, on Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube. Check out https://www.bondingproject.com/ and her blog on Psychology Today.

    26:45 Eli Sheff’s Ranty Pants

    In this new segment, we provide space for guests to rant about anything they like, big or small. Today: why are anti-maskers so anti-abortion but also apparently anti-life?

    29:30 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    30:00 Thank you!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 10 Feb 2021

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    591 Unf*ck your polyamory

    Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson share insights from their new online course, Unf*ck your polyamory

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com

    1:00 Poly in the news

    BBC 2 has a new drama called Trigonometry centered around black poly folks

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    2:00 Interview with Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell: Unfuck your polyamory

    Kevin Patterson has practiced consensual nonmonogamy since 2002. In 2015, he started Poly Role Models, an interview series and polyamory's most inclusive platform. This has led to the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind and along with co-writer Alana Phelan, the sci-fi novel series, For Hire.


    Dr. Liz Powell is a licensed psychologist (CA 27871) and coach who specializes in helping you build your most fulfilling, authentic life. They teach, write, and consult on areas of sexual diversity and pleasure, non-traditional relationships, and sexual empowerment.

    Unfuck your polyamory is a 6-week course covering polyamory 101, boundaries, couple privilege, jealousy and compersion, metamours, and power dynamics that will give you easy, guided practice to put your skills into practice right away.

    Kevin is at PolyRoleModels.tumblr.com, on Twitter at http://twitter.com/PolyRoleModels, Facebook at facebook.com/PolyRoleModels, Instagram at http://instagram.com/@PolyRoleModels. For Hire is on Facebook at facebook.com/ForHIreMag or you can order For Hire: Operator directly at tinyurl.com/ForHireMag1.

    Dr. Liz is at www.sexpositivepsych.com or www.drllizpowell.com, on Twitter at https://twitter.com/sexpospysch, Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/sexositivepsych, Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/drlizpowell. Their book is at http://buidingopenrelationships.com and YouTube channel is at http://youtube.com/c/sexpositivepsych.

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    29:00 Happy poly moment

    R shares a story of her anxiety NOT getting the better of her!

    30:15 Thank you!

    Welcome new Poly Weekly Playmates Theresa, Rebecca, and Jillian!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 20 Jan 2021

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