Polyamory WeeklyAuthor: Minx
12 Jul 2020

Polyamory Weekly

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Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory, the lifestyle of being involved in more than one commited, long-term, loving relationship with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

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    587 Love in the time of coronavirus

    How do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes!
    • We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome!

    3:00 Poly in the news

    10:45 Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    11:25 Topic: should we move my metamour in with us while we socially isolate?

    If you’re considering cohabitation that you wouldn’t have considered due to coronavirus social isolation requirements, some advice:

    • As always, make sure your existing relationships are relatively healthy first.
    • Ask everyone involved what they need to be happy and healthy in a communal space. Consider personal space, alone time, sexual, and physical needs.
    • Discuss how finances will work in terms of rent, groceries, and other bills.
    • Discuss expectations for chores and other responsibilities.
    • Ask your kids how they feel about your metamour moving in.
    • Have the pets been introduced? Is there a danger that they might attack each other?
    • Set up regular check-ins after the move-in. These provide opportunities to bring up what it working well, what isn’t, to express gratitude and appreciations, and to bring up issues before they become bigger.
    • Take a break from news coverage if it increases anxiety or feelings of depression.

    17:00 Join the conversation

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    17: 05 Feedback

    • S from the Boston area calls in to share a personal neologism, “schmeeling.”
    • Phenom calls in to ask how to get her partner to date more and make sure everything is OK. She keeps encouraging him to date, but he’s not getting out as much as her.
      • There is no issue here except that maybe you feel guilty. Deal with your own guilt and stop pressuring him to date!

    24:45 Pervy bird throuple

    Oops! Accidentally skipped this one: Perverted Illinois bald eagle threesome threatens sanctity of marriage. What’s next, hawk orgies?

    26:00 Happy poly moment

    Finding unexpected commonalities with your metamour!

    28:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 24 Mar 2020

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    586 Feast or famine

    What do you do when you have one romantic partner and your partner has none?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • What were your favorite shows of 2019?
      • 569 Building open relationships with Dr. Liz Powell--March 18--17,397
      • 572 When your partner’s jealousy precludes your polyamory--April 28--14,392
      • 568 A framework for consent--March 3--13,440
      • 576 Will poly help emotionally unavailable partners--July 1--13,019
      • All-time downloads: 7,261,446

    5:15 Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    5:40 Topic: Feast or famine: when you have more partners than your partner

    Oliver is in his first non-mono relationship with S. S had said she wouldn’t date him if he were monogamous, so he gave it a try. Now he is in a relationship with T, and S has decided that “meaningless sex with strangers” aren’t what she wants. Oliver is afraid S will ask him to stop seeing T, since S has no relationship partners.

    Has anyone of you ever come across a situation where you've been frustrated with non-monogamy? How can you manage a situation where one partner has other partners while the other one doesn't?

    • It’s the people involved, not the relationship style you should question.
    • Relationships don’t have to be equal; they only need to be fair. Your polyamory isn’t contingent upon your partner having a certain number of relationships/partners. 
    • Relationship ruler: is it making you a happier and healthier version of yourself?
    • You can be gay and not dating. You can be poly and only dating one person (like Minx)
    • You get to decide who you date and how you date them. So does she. She doesn’t get to say who you date (although she can certainly establish a boundary that if you date other people, she won’t be with you).

    17:05 Join the conversation

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    17:20 Happy poly moment

    C writes in to share a happy poly moment about opening her relationship due to a long-distance move, and things went well!

    18:50 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to our new PW Playmate, Tom, for his subscription! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 05 Feb 2020

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    585 Poly for the holidays

    Advice from six different therapists, relationship coaches, and body workers on navigating family events as a poly person over the holidays

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • My Thanksgiving Happy Poly Moment

    5:25 Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    5:45 Topic: Poly for the holidays

    32:00 Join the conversation

    To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

    32:30 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to our new PW Playmate, Tom, for his subscription! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 04 Dec 2019

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    584 Dealing with abandonment issues

    I have abandonment issues, but I don't know what I need when they come up. How do I ask my partners for what I need?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • Thanks to the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon!
    • Poly for the Holidays contributions

    1:55 Poly in the news

    5:25 Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    5:55 Topic: Dealing with abandonment issues

    Katie has abandonment issues and asks how to better cope with them when poly. She knows she has them but doesn’t know what to ask for when they arise.

    • Knowing and identifying is half the battle.
    • Explain to your partners what you shared with me—how it feels. Ask for their help with comfort might you need in the moment. Do the full analysis when you’re not in the midst of the issue.

    17:15 Join the conversation

    To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

    17:30 Feedback

    Joe writes in with additional advice to the listener in episode 567 on how to find poly community near you.

    20:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to our new PW Playmate, Tom, for his subscription! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 25 Nov 2019

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    583 Poly Weekly live from Portland!

    We interview a munch organizer and field audience questions at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com
    • We’re at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon!

    2:00 Interview with Close In munch organizer Hannah

    Lessons learned include:

    • poly and kinky people are everywhere
    • it’s important to destigmatize a stigmatized group
    • “Square up; what you want is fine; fuck ‘em all!”

    9:00 Poly Weekly live!

    • What advice would you give to solo polys?
    • 12:45 How to come out to folks who aren’t familiar with poly?
      • Anticipate questions, be prepared, be calm, don’t take it personally, give them a year to freak out
      • Folks will match your tone, so adopt one of calm, easy compassion
    • 16:00 How has poly changed in the last 14 years?
    • 17:45 And now there are terms for everything!
    • 19:05 How do I bring up the birth control discussion?
      • Be brave and bring it up. Or leave a birth control pamphlet in the toilet for leisure reading! J
      • Use regular relationship check ins as a space to bring up any issues
    • 22:15 What is your take on hierarchies?
      • If it works for everyone involved and it’s transparent, fine. But it doesn’t work for everyone (or me).
      • The challenge with hierarchies is that it sets up a permission model.
      • Be aware if you are talking about power structure or entanglement levels? If the latter, “nesting partner” might be more useful than “primary.”
    • 26:15 My mom thinks my polyamory is a phase. Do you know folks who have lived out their lives as poly?
      • Allena Gabosch, Oberon Zell-Ravenhart, and many others.
      • Just as with child-rearing, having an extended network to help you in your old age is valuable.

    31:15 Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    32:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 06 Nov 2019

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