Polyamory WeeklyAuthor: Minx
20 Jan 2021

Polyamory Weekly

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Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory, the lifestyle of being involved in more than one commited, long-term, loving relationship with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

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    591 Unf*ck your polyamory

    Dr. Liz Powell and Kevin Patterson share insights from their new online course, Unf*ck your polyamory

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com

    1:00 Poly in the news

    BBC 2 has a new drama called Trigonometry centered around black poly folks

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    2:00 Interview with Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell: Unfuck your polyamory

    Kevin Patterson has practiced consensual nonmonogamy since 2002. In 2015, he started Poly Role Models, an interview series and polyamory's most inclusive platform. This has led to the writing of the book, Love's Not Color Blind and along with co-writer Alana Phelan, the sci-fi novel series, For Hire.


    Dr. Liz Powell is a licensed psychologist (CA 27871) and coach who specializes in helping you build your most fulfilling, authentic life. They teach, write, and consult on areas of sexual diversity and pleasure, non-traditional relationships, and sexual empowerment.

    Unfuck your polyamory is a 6-week course covering polyamory 101, boundaries, couple privilege, jealousy and compersion, metamours, and power dynamics that will give you easy, guided practice to put your skills into practice right away.

    Kevin is at PolyRoleModels.tumblr.com, on Twitter at http://twitter.com/PolyRoleModels, Facebook at facebook.com/PolyRoleModels, Instagram at http://instagram.com/@PolyRoleModels. For Hire is on Facebook at facebook.com/ForHIreMag or you can order For Hire: Operator directly at tinyurl.com/ForHireMag1.

    Dr. Liz is at www.sexpositivepsych.com or www.drllizpowell.com, on Twitter at https://twitter.com/sexpospysch, Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/sexositivepsych, Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/drlizpowell. Their book is at http://buidingopenrelationships.com and YouTube channel is at http://youtube.com/c/sexpositivepsych.

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    29:00 Happy poly moment

    R shares a story of her anxiety NOT getting the better of her!

    30:15 Thank you!

    Welcome new Poly Weekly Playmates Theresa, Rebecca, and Jillian!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 20 Jan 2021

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    590 How do I develop compersion?

    How to experience and nurture compersion in your relationships

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    3:50 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner

    Both sides are not the same. If what you are looking for deep, systemic reform to systems, yeah, they are similar. But with 300,000 new cases of COVID in the U.S., the response would have been different with a Democrat in office. If you’re a woman seeking an abortion, an economist, a climatologist, or a trans person, you can see the difference.

    8:45 Contact us

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    9:00 Topic: How do I develop compersion?

    If you don’t feel compersion, how do you develop the capacity to experience it.

    • Compersion is the non-sexual joy you feel in seeing joy in others. It’s empathy, and you likely experience it all the time. If you’ve ever been happy for a friend at their wedding or joyful that your kid won their soccer game, you’ve felt compersion.
    • Start noticing and naming the compersion you feel already. If insecurity or jealousy are blocking you from feeling it in your poly relationships, try some of our jealousy/insecurity exercises, such as Discuss, Distract, Do and And Then What.
    • Consider compersion a muscle that you can exercise. Practice it mentally. For example, try experiencing feeling empathy/compersion when your metamour wins a video game.

    16:12 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    16:30 Feedback

    19:15 Happy poly moment

    • S shares a story of her metamour saving their life
    • R finds strength and courage to pursue polyamory

    23:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 06 Jan 2021

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    589 My dom's girlfriend is domblocking me

    Worried and her roommate are seeing the same long-distance dom, and her roommate started dating him and then put restrictions on Worried's time with him. Should they move in together?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    2:40 Lusty Guy’s polyamory and politics corner

    Lusty Guy provides insights on expertise: what is it, when do you have it, and what to do in its absence. To start increasing your expertise on U.S. politics, LG’s suggests reading Howard Zinn’s A People’s History of the United States.

    6:50 Topic: My dom’s girlfriend is domblocking me

    Worried has a roommate, and they have both been playing with the same long-distance dom for two years. The roomie and the dom began dating, and the roomie began “putting restrictions” on the dom’s play with Worried. Worried thinks that the roomie is fabricating issues to enforce her girlfriend status. They are talking about moving in together.

    • Don’t move in until this is resolved
    • Why are you blaming the roommate instead of the person performing the unwanted actions, the dom?
    • When you have a conversation with your roommate, go in seeking to understand and with vulnerability
    • Claim your autonomy; it’s your choice whether to obey your roommate’s rules
    • This smells like a relationship by crisis model in which whoever has the biggest crisis gets the most attention. So just ask your dom for what you want, regardless of crises. Ask for what you want!
    • Are they a good roommate, outside of the dom issue? Can you easily share household chores or choose a restaurant for dinner?
    • Put yourself first

    18:35 Feedback

    Welcome to our listeners in the US, Canada,  Germany, Australia, UK, Netherlands, Poland, and New Zealand. Shout out to that one person listening in Belize, Tunisia, Luxembourg, Ecuador, and Chile! 

    19:15 Happy poly moment

    • From S in Mexico on her family accepting her polyamory and her partner participating in her
    • A COVID story from L!

    22:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Welcome to our new PW Playmates, Ivo, Erin, Laurel, Monica, and Nathanael. Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.

    23:00 Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

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  • Posted on 01 Jan 2021

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    588 Where the f-ck have we been

    Why we didn't produce an episode for eights months and what to expect from Poly Weekly moving forward.

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    1:00 Host chat: why haven’t we produced for eight months

    • Puppy!
    • COVID pandemic left me frustrated, helpless, and unmotivated to podcast
    • Stay-at-home had a negative effect on our relationship for a while
    • Lack of access to coping strategies. Swimply is the app to rent outdoor pools by the hour.
    • George Floyd, BLM, CHAZ/CHOP, federal stormtroopers, kids being tear gassed

    14:30 What Poly Weekly will be moving forward

    We’ll be talking more about politics when it’s relevant. We believe it should be OK to talk about politics, like we believe it should be OK to talk about sex. The personal is political. And we’ll be making calls to action like this one: volunteer with the critical senatorial runoff election in Georgia, donate to Stacey Abrams’ Fair Fight, or donate or volunteer for the candidates Jon Ossoff and Reverend Raphael Warnock.

    And the name of the show is still Poly Weekly, so we’ll still be giving relationship advice, sharing happy poly moments, and addressing your feedback. We’ll just also be sprinkling in more politics when it’s relevant.

    If that isn’t your thing, we invite you to subscribe to the Multiamory podcast or listen to Esther Perel’s sex podcast or any other poly- or sex-oriented podcast.

    Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    Join the conversation

    To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

    Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 08 Dec 2020

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    587 Love in the time of coronavirus

    How do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes!
    • We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome!

    3:00 Poly in the news

    10:45 Contact us

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    11:25 Topic: should we move my metamour in with us while we socially isolate?

    If you’re considering cohabitation that you wouldn’t have considered due to coronavirus social isolation requirements, some advice:

    • As always, make sure your existing relationships are relatively healthy first.
    • Ask everyone involved what they need to be happy and healthy in a communal space. Consider personal space, alone time, sexual, and physical needs.
    • Discuss how finances will work in terms of rent, groceries, and other bills.
    • Discuss expectations for chores and other responsibilities.
    • Ask your kids how they feel about your metamour moving in.
    • Have the pets been introduced? Is there a danger that they might attack each other?
    • Set up regular check-ins after the move-in. These provide opportunities to bring up what it working well, what isn’t, to express gratitude and appreciations, and to bring up issues before they become bigger.
    • Take a break from news coverage if it increases anxiety or feelings of depression.

    17:00 Join the conversation

    To join the online conversation around this and other episodes, follow us on Twitter or Facebook. We love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly.

    17: 05 Feedback

    • S from the Boston area calls in to share a personal neologism, “schmeeling.”
    • Phenom calls in to ask how to get her partner to date more and make sure everything is OK. She keeps encouraging him to date, but he’s not getting out as much as her.
      • There is no issue here except that maybe you feel guilty. Deal with your own guilt and stop pressuring him to date!

    24:45 Pervy bird throuple

    Oops! Accidentally skipped this one: Perverted Illinois bald eagle threesome threatens sanctity of marriage. What’s next, hawk orgies?

    26:00 Happy poly moment

    Finding unexpected commonalities with your metamour!

    28:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors

    Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 24 Mar 2020

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