Polyamory WeeklyAuthor: Minx
23 Jul 2021

Polyamory Weekly

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Minx and her listeners discuss loving more and polyamory, the lifestyle of being involved in more than one commited, long-term, loving relationship with the full knowledge and consent of all parties involved. In this community-driven show, each week Minx talks sex, relationships, communication, family, erotica, psychology, orgasms and anything else that comes up in the ins and outs of the daily polyamorous lifestyle.

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    600 Polyamorous while Asian

    Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    3:15 Interview: Michelle Hy

    We ask Michelle her poly origin story, how her poly and Asian identities intersect, why she started Polyamorous While Asian, the pitfalls she warns against, and dating during the pandemic. We talk about how allies must consider Asian inclusion from the beginning rather than tacking it on.

    “All relationships are political, whether or not they feel political. Because politics is just us deciding how we relate to one another, and how we feel that power should be distributed.”

    Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon and runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other POC. She offers non-monogamy peer support sessions and also touches on topics related to body confidence, sex positivity, and more. Follow her on Instagram @polyamorouswhileasian and learn more via her website at polyamorouswhileasian.com

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    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com.

    23:41 Feedback

    • Friggin’ Limey likes our use of “relationship orientation”
    • Politics corner should be its own podcast
    • Jen thanks us for episode 598; it was frighteningly similar to what ended her relationship

    27:14 Happy poly moment

    G shares a camping happy poly moment!

    28:18 Thank you!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 07 Jul 2021

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    599 When to call it quits

    Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    • If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
    • Next episode will be from Hawaii

    1:35 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

    On the Palestine-Israeli conflict—it’s OK to admit you don’t know enough. Recommended reading, anyone?

    3:40 Contact us

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com.

    4:20 Topic: When do I call it quits on my marriage?

    Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. The past year (2019), her husband H and she moved to a new city and have been dating a lot. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.

    • If you’re not sure who you are or what you want, focus on your most important relationship: the one you have with yourself. Take time to understand yourself, your needs, and your shame through counseling, journaling, meditation, or whatever method works for you.
    • Uncharted territory can be seen as an opportunity.
    • If you’re close to your mom, it’s likely that she will even accept your queerness and poly, in time.

    14:10 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    14:35 Feedback

    Yubi wrote in to object to our “date your species” advice and our reluctance to date poly newbies.

    20:45 Happy poly moment

    We hear from our old friend Greedy Paul about discovering a poly rideshare driver!

    22:40 Thank you!

    Thanks to new Poly Weekly Playmate Samuel!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 01 Jun 2021

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    598 My husband vetoed my partner

    Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    4:30 Poly in the news

    Romper published a 4,000-word feature with the arresting title The Nonmonoga-Moms Next Door

    7:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

    Lusty Guy defines fascism and comments on its consolidation within today’s Republican party.  

    13:30 Contact us

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com and copy polyweekly@gmail.com.

    14:00 Topic: My husband vetoed my partner

    Mathias and his partner have been together 13 years, married just over three. They’ve had threesomes. Then Mathias met Markus, dated him independently, and fell for him pretty hard. He did bring Markus home for a reportedly amazing threesome followed by breakfast! Mathias kept dating Markus independently, came home later than expected (by 30 min) one night, and the hubbie vetoed both feelings for and independent sex with Markus. They have continued to date and enjoy a romantic friendship, but Mathias wants more, so he proposed polyamory.

    • This is a permission model of relationship, which is putting you in a parent-child dynamic
    • Think of this as a mutual renegotiation of the rules of engagement to provide security for him and honesty for Mathias
    • Those who force the choice lose the choice
    • And then what exercise to deal with insecurity
    • If this does spell the end of your marriage, resist the urge to think of it as a failure; it’s a successful relationship that came to a conclusion.

    26:55 Join the conversation

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    27:15 Feedback

    Chloe from episode 359 Being out, poly, pregnant, and judged gives us an update.

    32:05 Happy poly moment

    From Instagram

    32:45 Thank you!

    Thanks to new Poly Weekly Playmate Brian!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 19 May 2021

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    597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy

    SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    If you’re under 18, visit www.scarleteen.com

    00:45 Poly in the news

    Poly community builders Christopher Smith, Robyn Trask, Marina Reiko, Ruby Bouie Johnson and others did an impressive job for more than an hour on Areva Martin's influential online talk show The Special Report

    2:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

    Today’s politics corner is the argument for D.C. statehood. The over 700,000 inhabitants of Washington, D.C. pay their taxes and have no voting representation in Congress. The arguments against: it’s unconstitutional (it’s not); you could shrink the size of D.C. to encompass just the White House and government buildings. Others have pointed out the inherent racism, since D.C. has a large percentage of Black people, and there is the partisanship, as D.C. is likely to vote Democratic. When Rep. Mondaire Jones (D-N.Y.) pointed that out, his words stating the racism of the opposing view were against the rules of the house and had to be removed from the record. Please support D.C. statehood!

    11:00 Feedback

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com.

    11:30 Topic: I had the best sex of my life with another guy. Help!

    After eight years of marriage, Stressed as Fuck and her husband opened up their marriage. Stressed quickly had sex with another guy. She says, “the problem is, when I had sex with this other guy it was fucking incredible. Most amazing sex I’ve ever had. It made me realize I haven’t enjoyed sex with my husband. I should also add that he doesn’t want anyone else for sex. But I’m feeling a lot of pressure and just am not feeling like being sexual with him. I feel a lot of guilt. Am I horrible? Is this normal?! Help!”

    • You can’t respect boundaries that aren’t yet defined, so keep that discussion ongoing.
    • It’s not unusual or surprising that the second person you’ve ever had sex with is good sex. It’s good because it’s different, so don’t assume it’s love. And if sex with your husband was mediocre, explore your emotional connection and sexual desires with your husband. And yes, it’s normal to feel guilty.
    • Poly doesn’t fix or destroy relationships, but it does shine a spotlight on issues. You can see as an opportunity to explore ways to improve your sex life. Tons of books will help you explore role play, BDSM, porn, public sex, or other fantasies that could help.
    • For the guilt, try the And then what exercise.

    20:00 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    20:45 Feedback

    Cory, another fan of LustyGuy’s politics corner, writes in.

    22:30 Happy poly moment

    Kristen writes in to share a happy poly moment of the first weekend she, her husband, and metamour spent together.

    25:45 Thank you!

    Thanks to new Poly Weekly Playmate Ben ($1.99)!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 12 May 2021

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    596 How does poly in person look?

    Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new partners when you've asked him not to?

    0:00 Introduction and host chat

    3:15 Poly in the news

    5:15 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

    Most white U.S. citizen don’t know about the MOVE bombing, in which when the Philadelphia Police Department bombed a residential home occupied by the militant black anarcho-primitivist group MOVE, and the Philadelphia Fire Department let the fire burn out of control. Five children and six adults were killed. More links:

    14:15 Feedback

    If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email lustyguy@polyweekly.com. If you want to pitch yourself as a guest for the podcast, please read this first.

    15:00 Topic 1: How does poly in person look?

    K started her poly journey during the pandemic and has only had socially distanced dates with her new partner. How do you act when you all get together in person so it’s not awkward?

    20:45 Topic 2: My partner only tells me about new girlfriends after their dates

    W is in a relationship with her husband and has a boyfriend, who is also married. He has repeatedly casually dropped that he was going to have an overnight with someone else on her last-minute. She has asked him for advance notice to process, but he continues to bring up his dates last-minute. She wants to know what her “recourse” is, and if she’s overreacting.

    28:00 Join the conversation

    Join the community on Facebook at https://facebook.com/polyweekly  or Twitter at @polyweekly or @cunningminx, Instagram at cunning.minx or now on TikTok as @cunningminx.

    28:20 Feedback

    Matt from 593 shares an update! Emma ghosted him shortly after he sent it, but says, “While I didn't hear your advice now back then, I did essentially come to terms with a lot of what you said. I think you both were accurate with how you looked at things (as usual!) and with hindsight being (not gonna say it), it was tough for a while but I definitely got through it and am feeling good about a lot of things, minus the pandemic that happened since then and still continues. You are not however going lose a follower! You two are absolute gems and I appreciate so much the work that you both do as educators to so many different people. I love learning from you and I hope I continue to take a great appreciation for the awesome work you do. I hope that all is well and continues to be well for you.”

    30:00 Thank you!

    Thanks to Andrew ($69) and Gabriel ($96) for your donations!

    Thanks to our Poly Weekly Playmates for your financial support! We also love when you review us on Apple Podcasts or your favorite podcatcher (including Spotify!) and when you share us with your friends directly. Thanks also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.


  • Posted on 27 Apr 2021

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